They were for my future husband at the very beginning of our budding high school romance. I insisted on paying the check at Gold Star Chili because I had a great job developing pictures in the one-hour photo lab at Kroger… I know, what a high roller, right?
When he protested, (not a lot, but a little) I said, “I can afford it … I want to.” Really, I just wanted him to notice me, to know I was different, and to get to his heart through 2 things I already knew he liked… food and free stuff. The rest is history. And almost 23 years later, I’ve never forgotten the moral of my story, you have to give to get.
In our “doing a thousand things at once world,” it’s easy to forget the power of doing something out of the ordinary for someone else. We can all get stuck in a rut of feeling underappreciated and overwhelmed, and the last thing on our minds is doing one more thing for someone other than ourselves.
I once read that if you feel like something is missing in your life, try giving that same thing to others and see what happens. If you’re feeling lonely, reach out and visit someone who may be feeling lonely too. If you’re feeling like no one is noticing everything you do, pick one person and tell her how much you appreciate the difference she is making. Send a card, write a text message, or pick up the phone. It’s funny the way the world works, because you’ll soon find that same thing showing up in your own life on a day when you most need it. If you don’t believe me, just try it.
Read It: The Rhythm of Life by Matthew Kelly If you’re feeling out of sync, this a great book to help you step back and make positive changes.
The Rhythm of Life: Living Every Day with Passion and Purpose
Do It: Think of one thing you would love someone else to do for you, then ask yourself “Can I do this for someone else this week?”
Think It: “If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another.” Dalai Lama